Pride Month: For a safer society
- 24 Jun 2019
"Neither of our parents accepted us once they found out that we're gay. We weren't even ready to talk about it, but there are friends and acquaintances who love doing things for you unnecessarily. For some of us, it takes more than a year or two to come to terms with our sexuality, let alone being ready to discuss it with family and come out in public. Of course, everybody wanted us to see a psychiatrist. The funny part is that even doctors said we 'turned homosexual because we were around transgenders and other homosexuals'. They also offered to treat us to 'make us heterosexual again'. In most Indian houses, nobody talks about sexuality. Most children don't even know what it means or if they're queer. Amidst this, we have educated doctors suggesting treatments and surgeries. Honestly, they're the ones who need therapy!
We have been together for about five years now and it hasn't been easy. We found each other on social media when we were in college. We had made fake profiles that actually resembled the other's real self. We spent hours chatting with each other, until we finally planned to meet one day. After many ups and downs, blocking and unblocking each other on the internet, we realised how much we liked each other.
Since then our understanding of ourselves, each other, the LGBTQIA+ community and the society has multiplied exponentially. Meanwhile, our choices were questioned, we were blamed for influencing each other's sexuality and were refused houses for rent. But none of it stopped us. We decided to build a community that understood and supported each other, that allowed sharing knowledge among one other and created a safe zone for members and allies of the community.
Most of our knowledge came from talks and discussions. Listening to people's experiences, their stories and learning from their lessons always teaches one better than the diplomatic answers offered by the internet.
Today, both of us work in corporates, yet we make time to spend our weekends creating awareness about queer in educational institutions. That's where people need to understand that it's normal to have a sexual orientation or gender identity different from theirs. Many kids are bullied and tortured because they accept who they are and come out of the closet. We hardly see people talk about this and what these children go through. With our organisation, we aim to achieve that. If the society isn't ready to accept us for who we are, how can they expect us to be open about it and tell them the truth? Isn't it a two-way process?"
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